Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Being Present and Coming Back

Morihei Ueshiba, know as the father of the modern martial art of Aikido, was reputedly asked by one of his students how he remained so present and apparently unperturbed in the midst of a fight. Whether apocryphal or not, he is reputed to have said that he did not consider himself particularly good at being continuously present in a fight but what he was really good at was ‘coming back’ from being distracted.

When people first begin Mind-Body Relaxation training, almost universally they report that their major difficulty is staying focused. Their distress about being distracted is usually allayed when they understand that the practice of Mind-Body Relaxation involves, like the skill of the Aikido master, getting good at ‘coming back’ from distraction. One learns to be tireless, remorseless, and unperturbed by the tendency of one’s mind to wander away from the object of focus.

“Getting good at coming back from distraction is as important as being good at staying focused.”

Beginners often feel various degrees of frustration, irritation and remorse when they find that their attention has wandered off into what they’re having for lunch or some distressing thought about their symptoms, whatever they may be. As one progresses in this relaxation practice, one learns to return attention to the chosen sensation they are focusing on without any emotion or internal comment about being distracted. Coming right back from distraction without emotion or internal comment is what it takes to get good at ‘coming back.’ There is no quick way to achieve this – practice, practice and more practice is the often unwelcome secret.

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Affirmation for Loved Ones

If you are feeling frustrated with a loved one, think of gratitude and then recite these words:

I want to be present with you exactly as you are. I am not asking you to change in any way. While I may have preferences about how I might want you to be, I am committed to letting go of those preferences in favor of letting you be exactly the way you are. You may change from one moment to the next, and I am committed to being fully present with you on a moment to moment basis and to feel and accept you however much you change. No matter what happens in this moment, I am determined to let you be as you are with an open and sincere heart.

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Unbending Intent - Beingness, Doingness, and Havingness

When we have unbending intent to create something – that is we deeply desire it, we completely believe that we can do it, and we are totally willing to have it – it simply cannot fail to manifest, and usually within a very short time.

The clearer and stronger our intent, the more quickly and easily our creative visualization will work. In any give situation we only need ask ourselves about the condition of our intent. If it is weak or uncertain, it can often be strengthened by affirming: I now have total intent to create this here and now!

We can think of life as containing three levels, and we can call those levels beingness, doingness, and havingness.

Beingness is the basic experience of being alive and conscious. It is the experience we have in deep meditation, the experience of being totally complete and at rest within oneself.

Doingness is movement and activity, it stems from the natural creative energy that flows through every living thing and is the source of our vitality.

Havingness is the state of being in relationship with other people and things in the universe. It is the ability to allow and accept things and people into our lives; to comfortably occupy the same space with them.

Beingness, doingness and havingness are like a triangle where each side supports the others. They are not in conflict with each other. They all exist simultaneously.

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: They try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so that they will be happier.

The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

Thus, the purpose is to connect us with our beingness to help us focus and facilitate our doingness and to increase and expand our havingness.

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Why You Get Sick

I often hear clients comment that they've 'caught a cold.' Really? As Tohei Sensei is famous for saying, "Why catch a cold? I throw them away!' BTW, I've not 'been sick' in over six years and have never had the flu. I don't have a super-immune system, I have just focused on abundance of health, not dis-ease.

When, through insecurity (fear) and a feeling that there 'isn't enough,' we try to hold onto or cling to what we have, we begin to cut off this wonderful flow of energy. In hanging onto what we have, we fail to keep the energy moving and we don't make space for new energy to come to us.

People get sick because they 'believe' on an inner level that illness is an appropriate or inevitable response to some situation or circumstance, because it in some way seems to solve a problem for them or get them something that they need, or as a desperate solution to some unresolved and unbearable inner conflict.

If we are suffering physically in some way, it is a message that there is something to be looked at within our consciousness, something to be recognized, acknowledged, and changed.

New Happenings at the Mind-Body Awareness & Healing Arts Center In Las Vegas

Well, we've been at this mind-body awareness stuff for almost a year now...what great progress we've all made!

I've not advertised these get-together's because I've wanted to work through all the possible 'bugs in the system' with just a handful of my Las Vegas massage clients. (They are willing to try anything!) I've also asked them if they've seen any improvement using meditation or yoga or other ideas we discussed. It seems we've been a resounding hit!

Thus, over the next several months I'll be rolling this out to more and more people. Class size is limited for yoga and meditation, yet there's always room for one-on-one consultations such as life coaching, as well as Las Vegas massage sessions available.

Listed below are a few clarifications and changes we've made as well that you need to know about:

First, we've a new location! We are located within Northwest Wellness Center with Dr. Brenda Hilby, 4611 North Rancho Drive, Las Vegas, Nevada 89130. This is on Rancho Drive between Craig Road and Lone Mountain Road in Northwest Las Vegas.

Second, yoga and meditation class days and times vary depending on your schedule. We are NOT a yoga studio where there's set times and you come in and train or practice. Our approach is for the needs of YOU the individual, not a studio for the masses. I work with you individually, first, then we can get you in with a group. Also, the yoga we perform is Hatha Yoga, a very basic practice. We work on mindfulness in movement, not cardio or speed or anything like that.

Third, we've done a lot of Life Coaching in individual sessions. If you need this just let me know. This ties into the next point...

Fourth, we have spent a lot of time on the Law of Attraction and Manifestation. I'm sure you've seen the movie The Secret or perhaps have read the book. What I have preferred doing is going to the older texts of these Laws, The Science of Getting Rich, The Science of Being Well and The Science of Being Great by Wallace Wattles. These all work together, similar to The Secret, The Power and The Magic by Rhonda Byrne.

The clients who have spent time with this have seen sudden and significant results. Please understand that this is an individual process, and although we do have group meditation and yoga sessions, I still spend a great deal of time with YOU. (That's why the classes are small, around half a dozen people.)

So, there you go; this has been what we've been up to! If you live in Las Vegas and this interests you, please contact me at the information provided below.

Kris Kelley
Las Vegas Massage
Mind-Body Awareness & Healing Arts Center
4611 N. Rancho Dr.
Las Vegas, Nevada 89130
(702) 203-5670
kris.kelley@yahoo.com

P.S. - As I mentioned above, I now work closely with Brenda Hilby, Doctor of Chiropractic. If I determine through my assessment that you need her services I'll get you scheduled in with her. She also works in nutrition, and has many products that may assist you.